Human beings are complex creatures. Unless you devote all your time to understanding every intricate complexity, it’s almost impossible to know everything about them.
Women, often times, can see infinitely more confusing to men. One of the big reasons behind this is the lack of emotional development in men.
But in order to develop your personality in a healthy and wholesome way that will naturally allow emotional awareness to grow, you need to really be focusing on your life.
It’s confusing and frustrating to hear such statements, I know; let me clear things up.
Perfecting Your Craft
This is another one of those things that should be a long-term goal for you. If you don’t know what you’re doing with your life, why would anybody new want to be a part of it in the first place?
Finding what your craft is might take time, but once you do so aggressively pursuing it is a duty of yours.
Whether it’s business, music, politics, it really doesn’t matter as long as you’re invested in it. People have the ability to recognize passion and when you adopt this mentality into your daily life and begin to aggressively pursue your dreams, people will be drawn into your world a lot easier.
Decisiveness and Spontaneity
If you think about it logically, being decisive and being spontaneous can be seen as opposite ends of the spectrum.
A man who is decisive knows what he wants and does exactly that. Being spontaneous means being open to new experiences and letting these experiences flow from one to another like a wave.
How do you do both?
Be decisive when it matters. When you ask a woman out, make suggestions rather than asking for their opinion.
“Let’s do tacos. Meet me at 8.” Vs. “Hey, what time do you want to meet? What would you like to do? Mexican, Italian or Indian?
It’s too much.
Make the suggestion first, if she doesn’t like it she will express herself. Show yourself capable of making your own decisions. Throwing in a suggestion is an indicator of your personality. She gets to infer for herself the kind of guy you are rather than you wording it out for her.
Both these traits require you to have a degree of control of your life. It’s highly unlikely you’re going to develop into a decisive person unless you have already dealt with some degree of adversity. Start small, but keep the bigger picture in mind. Take action and see what happens.